Tinder can be used for many things, including dating, making friends, and getting laid. So why does the last one feel like such a taboo?

Well, it isn’t!

Many people on Tinder are completely open about what they want from the app, making your intentions a lot easier to achieve.

And yet, communicating those intentions might be difficult

So if you need help getting there, we will explain how to get laid on Tinder for you in easy and actionable steps!

Let’s dive in without missing a beat!

Step #1. Complete Your Profile

The first step involves setting up your profile. It’s the first thing other users see after all, so you should take advantage of most of its features.

Here’s what you want to ask yourself: do you want to make an honest profile or a catchy one?

Here’s how they’re different: 

Honest Profile

An honest profile will be upfront about wanting to get laid. This is the perfect approach if you have the looks to back your intentions! You can skip all the back-and-forth guess games and look for people looking for the same thing.

Here’s how you’d approach your profile pics and bio if you go for an honest profile:

Profile Pics

If you are going for the honest approach, you need some attractive pictures. Show those ladies what they want to see, such as:

• Show muscles: If you have some guns then show them! Bonus points if you are in a setting where it is normal to be shirtless, like at the beach or the gym.
• Use a professional camera: If you have the means or the money for it, get a professional picture taken of you.
• Flaunt your materialistic side: Show your expensive fashion or your cool car.
• Stay cool: Looking a little stoic might be better than just a wide smile. That said, both options are good and it mostly depends on your personality.

Bio and About Me

As we already mentioned, the point of an honest profile is to be straightforward with your approach. So your bio should reflect that.

Something like “I was looking for hot singles in my area and it led me here” can be both funny and get the message across.

Select “Short-term fun” among the “What Are You Looking For” options so that people looking for short-term fun can quickly find you.

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Catchy Profile

A catchy profile is more subtle about getting laid. It looks more like a standard profile with you doing most of the legwork to achieve your goals. 

So why go for this option?

1. Many people on Tinder are too prideful or shy to write that they want to get laid. If that’s your case, an honest profile might seem like a red flag.
2. An honest profile works better if you’re blessed with good looks. If you’re not that confident that other users may find you attractive from the get-go, a catchy profile is likely a better option for you. 

Profile Pics

You should aim to score some dates and then eventually get laid with your profile picture. Here are some tips to achieve the best results:

• Highlight your hobbies: Choose a photo that shows who you are and what you enjoy doing. If you love hiking, use a picture of you on a trail.
• Be front and center: Make sure you're the main focus. Don't use group shots, because other people won’t be able to tell which one is you.
• Show those teeth: Add pictures of you smiling – it makes you look friendly and approachable.
• Have good lighting: Try natural, outdoor lighting for the best look.
• Update your pics: Use recent photos that show what you look like now, not what you looked like a decade ago.
• Include pets: If you have a pet, a photo with them can be a hit.

Bio and About Me

The keyword for making your catchy bio should be “approachable”. Aim for as likable and endearing bio as you can make it. Honesty will make your life easier but try to be honest about your good side.

Something like "I’m the right kind of weird you’ve been warned about." works perfectly.

Select either “Still figuring it out” or “Long-term open to short”  in the What Are You Looking For options so that you seem more flexible in your options.

Step #2. Start Matching

The matches should start coming naturally once you set up a successful profile. But here are some things you need to keep in mind while swiping:

Be Selective

Swiping right on everyone is a massive waste of time for you and the other users. Not to mention, Tinder might flag you as a bot which will hurt your ELO score.

And what is an ELO score? Well, it is Tinder’s way of calculating how attractive you are to give you equally attractive matches. If your ELO score gets too low, you won’t be seeing any pretty girls on the app.

To avoid that try using these tips:

• Let filters help you: Try sorting by filters in the settings. You can easily eliminate anything from age range, height, religion, distance, and even zodiac signs.
• Swipe right on users with the same interest: Check the “About me” on other profiles. If they are interested in long-term relationships then you can easily swipe left.
• Avoid empty profiles: Don’t bother swiping right on profiles with only one picture or profiles without any bio. These users are mostly inactive and looking to boost their ego so they won’t swipe back anyone.
• Be selective: Have some standards but don’t look for perfection. Try to find the balance between the two.

Stay Active On the App

Try to get on Tinder for at least a couple of swipes daily. Tinder rewards active users by showing them other active users on the app.

This has a double benefit where you get to see other active profiles to swipe right on and other active profiles see you in their swipe stack as well.

Long swipe sessions might not be possible anyway since Tinder will prevent you from swiping too many times through its swipe limit.

That said, there are ways to bypass the swipe limit, starting with: 

Leverage Premium Features

Tinder has many paid features that can help you get more matches. Let’s first start with the single-use features you can buy:

Super Likes

Super Likes are a way to show someone you're interested in them. 

When you use a Super Like, that person will know you've picked them out of the crowd. Your profile jumps to the top of their list, giving you a better chance of being seen. 

They're best saved for profiles that really catch your eye.

Boosts

Think of Boosts as a spotlight for your profile. 

This feature shows your profile to more people for a short time, usually about 30 minutes, which leads to more likes and matches. 

It's a good way to get noticed when it gets quiet at the app.

You can buy these features individually or in bundles in the shop but don’t rush just yet. Because if you purchase premium subscriptions you will get some of these for free each month!

Premium Subscriptions

Here is a list of all Tinder subscription tiers - Plus, Gold, Platinum - and their features:

These features don’t guarantee your success but they greatly increase your chances of getting matches.

Step #3. Text Smartly

Once you have some interesting matches to chat with, there comes some bad news…that was the easy part.

But the good news is that we have more tips to turn your match into a date! 

It all starts with the first text. 

You could wait for the other person to send but that would risk ghosting your hard-earned match. So take the initiative and send the first message.

Sending the First Message

Your opening line is crucial - it's your chance to make a good first impression and pique someone's interest. 

A simple "hey" or "what's up" just doesn't cut it these days. It’s too low-effort to engage the other side. You want an opening that shows you put in a little thought and effort. 

So here are some tips for a good opener:

• Talk about something in their profile: This lets them know you paid attention to their info. Say they love cooking - you could ask about that. A good question can kick off a great chat.
• Say something nice about their pictures or write-up: An honest, kind word can make someone's day, as long as you keep it polite. Saying "Wow, that beach sunset photo is stunning!" can break the ice. You can also comment something nice about the person to start things off on a flirty note.
• Try a clever play on words: A well-placed joke can be a fantastic way to start talking and show off your funny side. But don't push it if wordplay isn't your thing. The key to jokes is to be confident. If you backtrack on your joke, it can get awkward. So either own the cheesiness or skip the wordplay altogether.
• Ask fun questions: Get them to share their take on a playful debate or a "what would you pick" situation. Like "Tacos or pizza for life?" It can lead to some cool back-and-forth. These questions also help you see the other person's personality and how much they’re into chatting with you.

Keeping the Conversation Active

Getting someone's attention with your first message is great, but keeping a lively and fun chat is what matters when you’re flirting on dating apps. 

Here are some tips to keep the chat flowing smoothly:

• Ask open-ended questions: Skip the yes/no stuff and go for questions that get the other person talking more. Instead of "Was work okay today?" try "What was the most interesting part of your day?"
• Show you're listening and dig deeper: When they tell you something, don't just move on. Ask more about what they said to keep the conversation going. If they mention loving movies, you could ask "What's a film you think everyone should see at least once?"
• Talk about yourself too: A good chat goes both ways. Don't just ask questions, share your own stories and thoughts. It helps you both feel more connected. Try to find things you have in common based on what they say.
• Throw in emojis and GIFs: A well-placed smiley face or funny GIF can show your personality. But don't go overboard - use them to add to your words, not take their place.
• Keep things upbeat and fun: A bit of playful teasing can lighten the mood. But pay attention to how it's received - if jokes don't land well, ease off. The aim is for you both to enjoy the chat.

Step #4. Flirt

Now that you've got a good chat going, it's time to add a dash of flirting. 

Flirting is a way to make the other person feel special and excited about talking to you. It's how you move from just friendly chatter to something a bit more. It might feel a bit scary, but if you want your chats to lead somewhere, you'll need to give it a shot at some point. 

Here are some tips to keep in mind:

1. Give real, thoughtful compliments: An honest compliment about something you actually noticed in their photos or write-up can make a big impact. Remember, you're complimenting the person, not just stuff around them. Instead of "Nice car," try "You look so nice in that road trip photo."
2. Keep things light and fun: You want to be someone they enjoy talking to. The easiest way to do that is to keep the chat upbeat with some humor. There's a reason people love to laugh and enjoy someone who can make them smile.
3. Ease into it: It's key to ramp up the flirting bit by bit. Don't go from zero to sixty right away. Slowly mix in more flirty comments, and you might find your match starts flirting back without even realizing it.
4. Use emojis and GIFs wisely: The right winking face or playful GIF can hint at flirting while keeping the mood light and fun.
5. Be confident: Remember, you both swiped right, you're both chatting, and you're both using a dating app. Take these as signs that flirting is okay and expected. Have some faith in yourself, and the other person will pick up on that vibe.

Step #5. Set Up A Date

Once the conversation and flirting have escalated enough, it is time to take things off the app and into real life.

First thing first, you have to suggest a date.

Suggesting a Date

There is no “right timing” for when to ask. It’s all about gut feeling so trust your instincts for this one.

But don’t forget about these tips:

• Make a casual suggestion: "I know this cool little ice cream place. Feel like checking it out together?" This keeps things relaxed and easy-going.
• Give a clear suggestion, but stay open: Throw out a day and time, but show you're flexible. "How about Friday evening? But if that's tricky, I'm around next week too."
• Pick a public place: A popular café, a nice park, or a restaurant are great spots for a first meet-up. They're romantic picks for first dates.
• Have another date idea ready: Suggest one thing to do and a backup plan. "We could wander around the street fair, or if that's not your scene, there's a fun mini-golf place nearby."
• Have a place to stay the night: Clean up your house, look up a hotel, or even your car as a last resort. You don’t want to score the deal and then screw up this part. Transportation is also important since you don’t want the mood to dwindle between the date location and the night location.
• Don’t expect to get laid on the first date: Not everyone will be down to escalate things after the first date. See the mood and go for a few casual dates first depending on the other person.

The Date

Did you score your first date? Congratulations! It is time to pick a slick outfit and let your personality shine.

Remember that things might not click and that’s perfectly normal. Each date is an experience from which you can learn and improve.

Here are some tips for your date:

• Pay attention to your body language: Face the other person, make eye contact, and smile. A light touch on their arm when laughing can show you're into them.
• Give genuine compliments: Notice something you like about them and say it. "Your laugh is so fun" or "I love how passionate you are when you talk about your job" can make them feel special.
• Ask playful questions: "What's the most daring thing you've ever done?" or "If you could have any superpower, what would it be?" These can lead to fun, flirty chats.
• Listen and remember the details: If they mention loving a certain band, bring it up later. It shows you're listening and care about what they say.
• Use humor: Laugh at their jokes and share funny stories. A shared laugh can create a connection.
• Read the room: If things are going well you can casually mention another date or even suggest passing by your place after the date.

Step #6. Think About the Aftermath

By this point, there isn’t much to say other than another congratulations.

Don’t forget to be a gentleman and offer a ride home to the lucky lady.

And if things haven’t gone well then don’t worry. Not every match will lead to a date and not every date will lead to a hookup. The good news is the next date will be smoother, as you’ll have gained more experience and knowledge.

Avoiding Common Hookup Mistakes

#1. Use Protection

This is grade-school knowledge but use protection for safe sex. You don’t want to catch a Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) and you also don’t want to a case of child support…whichever is worse for you.

So pack some condoms for maximum safety and pleasure.

#2. Respect Boundaries

Your goals may be clear but that’s not always the case for the other person. They might not be interested in a hookup. Do NOT force anyone to do something they don’t want to do.

Another mistake is being too aggressive or forward in your messages. Comments that are overtly sexual or physical from the get-go are red flags. Keep your flirting light, fun, and respectful until you've established a real connection.

#3. Stay Safe During Your Dates

Love is blind they say. And there are a lot of evil people out there ready to scam or use you using “dates” as a disguise.

Always tell people close to you about your date plans and never go to private places without establishing a connection with the other person first. That’s why your first date should be in a public setting.

Overall trust your gut instincts. If you feel like something is off then you can always call the date off.

FAQs on How to Get Laid on Tinder

Do you still have some questions about how to get laid?

Check out our answers below:

#1. Is it okay to be upfront about wanting a hookup?

Yes. Most people see Tinder as a hookup app. 

Honesty is important, but don’t forget to be tactful about it.

#2. What if the date doesn’t go well?

If the date doesn’t go well, stay calm and polite. 

You can end the date early by saying something like, “I’ve enjoyed meeting you, but I don’t think this is going to work out. Thank you for your time.” Reflect on what didn’t work and use that insight for future dates.

Don’t dwell on it—move on and keep a positive attitude.

#3. What if they only want to text and not meet up?

If they only want to text and not meet up, it’s best to show your desire to meet in person.

If they continue to avoid setting a date, they probably aren’t interested in a real-life meetup. In that case, move on to other matches who are willing to meet up.

Conclusion

Getting laid is not as complicated when you break the process down into simple steps. Not to say it is easy but, over time, you can achieve some great results through trial and error.

Keep your profile fresh, stay engaged with matches, and do your best at dates. Rinse and repeat.

And if you want even more tips then don’t forget to check out our other blogs.

Related Readings

• How to Use Tinder to Get Dates [Beginner's Guide]
• How to Get a One-Night Stand Over Text (Full Answer & Tips)
• 15+ Tinder Hacks to Get You Hundreds of Matches

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